Week of Feb. 19th | “When I looked at you this morning, this is what I saw … simple everyday courage.”


“When I looked at you this morning, this is what I saw … simple everyday courage.”💞🙌🏻

Is there someone whom you love deeply that is struggling?  Is There a tenderness, a vulnerability to the place they find themselves?

Perhaps, it’s even you.

How are you *seeing* him, her, or yourself?

I have someone in my life right now who is struggling, deeply.  Someone who seems stuck in a tunnel, and yet, someone who has a genuine desire to emerge, but for some reason is having a difficult time emerging.

I must confess that I vacillate in my gaze.  I notice an impatience in wanting this person to get to the other side.

One of my biggest Pilgrim Soul lessons these days is learning the patience of Love.

Take a moment to contemplate Love’s absolute and undying patience towards us. Breathe in the air of that.  Feel the gentleness of the hand of Patience.

Now, seeing through the eyes of patience, consider your loved one.  How does patience change your perspective?

This happened to me this morning, and as often happens, while living in the question of how patience might change my perspective, I ran across something that was exactly what I needed, an essay from one of my favorite living poets, David Whyte, on courage. His use of language pierces my heart.  While reading his essay, I felt transformed by the gentle answer to my question.  Patience whispered to me, “when you gaze upon your struggling loved one, know that THIS is  what every day courage looks like,” or to use David Whyte’s language:

“Courage is what love looks like when tested by the simple everyday necessities of being alive.”

“Courage is the measure of our heartfelt participation with life, with another, with a community, a work; a future. To be courageous is not necessarily to go anywhere or do anything except to make conscious those things we already feel deeply and then to live through the unending vulnerabilities of those consequences. To be courageous is to seat our feelings deeply in the body and in the world: to live up to and into the necessities of relationships that often already exist, with things we find we already care deeply about: with a person, a future, a possibility in society, or with an unknown that begs us on and always has begged us on. To be courageous is to stay close to the way we are made.”

I am so grateful for the gift of these words. I immediately emailed my loved one to share the courage I witnessed this morning along with a link to this essay.

Perhaps, you know someone whom you want to share what a privilege it is to witness their courage?  If so, reach out to them today.  Let them know the courage you witness in their simple everyday interactions of being alive, maybe even share this link with them:  http://www.dailygood.org/story/1627/david-whyte-on-courage-david-whyte/

But promise me, you’ll recognize your own everyday courage, too. 💝💫





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8 responses to “Week of Feb. 19th | “When I looked at you this morning, this is what I saw … simple everyday courage.””

  1. I love this Tara. And I love you Tara. Thank you for these words this morning. I have some special people I plan on sharing this with.

  2. Much harder to recognize my own. There in lies the challenge but I love this poem so much and reading this helps! Thank you for sharing! Love and miss you, Tara!

    • Shannon, it is hard to see it in ourselves simply because we are not practiced in it. I would love to give you my eye balls for even a minute so that you could see the courage I see in you!!

  3. I love this! I see simple every day courage in my amazing daughter. My wonderful strong husband. And yes, myself. Sometimes I wonder how we all stay strong, but when one weakens a little bit, the others step in until that strength returns. Thank you for this and for all you do! ❤️

    • Thank you, Jill! I have been following you on Facebook. My prayers are with you all. I see nothing but courage in all of you.

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